To the Boys Who May One Day Date My Daughter - Video
I fucking hate this bullshit so much.
Its misogynistic, archaic asscrap.
YOUR DAUGHTER IS NOT YOUR PROPERTY.
WHO SHE DATES OR SLEEPS WITH IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. THINKING OTHERWISE IS INCREDIBLY CREEPY AND INVASIVE.
SHE HAS THE RIGHT TO MAKE HER OWN CHOICES AND MISTAKES.
YOU DON’T MAKE THE RULES. SHE IS NOT CATTLE. HER LOVE LIFE IS NOT YOUR CONTRACT. SHE MAKES THE RULES.
Not only are you advocating for a father to not care about his daughter, but you’re also misinterpreting the video horribly. He threatens the man that breaks his daughter’s heart. He threaten’s the man that hits her. That takes away her smile. He does not say she cannot love anyone, male or female, he says that they better love her. And if that’s not what a father is supposed to do, then I’ll be damned.
Maybe I’m wrong, I accept that, but please… please explain to me how fatherly love and care for his daughter is an archaic and misogynistic practice. Explain to me how allowing her to date who she loves, to do what she wants, and teaching her to not put up with abuse is wrong. I would love to hear it, she might not be his property, but he is her guardian, and guarding her happiness is no crime.
Also, any person who is now afraid of dating his daughter absolutely shouldn’t be, because that is a man to look up to and feel safe with, and only if you have intentions to break her heart should you be afraid. Very afraid. You either have a cemented body guard for years, or a death dealer on two legs, you decide.
i honestly heard my parents and i cried
Let me say something as a woman in her mid-thirties who has had several long-term relationships: it is IMPOSSIBLE to go through your love life without having someone break your heart, even if you’ve never been abused. Heartbreak is a normal part of the relationship world, and it’s not always a matter of someone deliberately hurting you. Relationships are not black and white dualities where either it’s a good relationship or a bad relationship, and heartbreak only happens in the bad ones. Relationships are messy, tangled, glorious treatments of the human condition, shared with at least one other person. Some relationships end peacefully, but plenty of them end too early, or on a sad note, or you know the relationship needed to end and you both ended it but you missed all the good things that were left anyway—and THOSE can lead to heartbreak, too, without anyone ever getting mean or violent.
If this dad cares about his daughter, he’s not going to threaten the people who break her heart. He’s going to help her be emotionally prepared for when heartbreak and sadness DO happen, so that she can grieve successfully and move on when the time is right.